Self Care Tips During Difficult Times (A Therapist’s Advice)

How do you love yourself? To love yourself is to experience freedom – freedom from doubt, self-hate, and oppression created by you. To love yourself is to no longer hold yourself back from what you deserve. To love yourself is to grow and enjoy your life. Self-love is a necessity if you want to live a truly happy life. Self-love is a choice, a commitment to yourself that you are going to love yourself, despite all the social and biological obstacles in your path. It is not found in a place, person or item. Can You Love Someone If You Don’t Love Yourself? We hear this a lot – that you can’t love someone if you don’t love yourself. But …

Don’t Do What You Love, Instead Do This

Everywhere you look, you will find people who are not happy about their work. They wish to get more out of life or are undecided about what to do next in life. It is during these times where you hear a particular piece of advice. You may have given it to someone else or you may have heard it yourself: Do what you love. This phrase comes in many forms: Follow your passion. With hard work and determination, you can live the dream. Find your calling. The optimism behind these phrases is well-intentioned, however, it is the worst kind of advice to give to anyone. Instead, I present in this article some possible alternatives to this. Why Doing What You …

How It Helps Me Cope

Are you feeling like an autumn leaf caught in a tornado right now? You are far from alone. The COVID-19 pandemic has changed life as people know it, and many folks are battling unprecedented levels of anxiety at the moment.  One ritual that never fails to soothe me is getting in the kitchen and donning my baking apron. The room itself is my happy place, and the act of making something to delight my family helps me feel productive and useful when I’m not sure what else to do. Here’s what I get from my routine and how you can benefit, too.  Baking Gives You a Sense of Control  You can’t control much right now, and neither can I. Our …

How to end your “if only” list and accept yourself as you are

By Cheryl Melody Baskin If only I didn’t have to work anymore, THEN I’d be happy. If only I could land a job, THEN I’d be happy. If only I could find the right partner, THEN I’d be happy. If only I could get some peace and quiet around here, THEN I’d be happy. If only I could become rich and famous, THEN I’d be happy. Do you have similar thoughts? Although I know better, there are days when I hear the whispers of “if only” in my head, too. While many of these “if only” goals may sound like the key to a great life, wanting them — or even achieving them — doesn’t always bring us closer to …

Inspiring Friendship Quotes and Sayings

Friendship means affection, respect and trust between people who feel close to each other, and who feel comfortable in the company of each other. Friendship is usually a relationship, in which people share similar interests, thoughts or goals, and enjoy the company of each other. Everyone wants to have friends. Some people have what they call ‘my best friend’. Some have many friends, and others just a few, or none at all. True friends care about each other. True friends love to talk with each other. Friends love to hang together. Here is a collection of inspirational friendship quotes and quotations. Best Friendship Quotes and Sayings “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people …

Learn to face difficulty

“It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.” — Seneca the Younger This is a great quote to both contemplate and to apply to your life. How often do you hear people complain? Pick a topic-love, friendship, careers, etc. The list of issues that people complain about is endless. You and I are no different. Perhaps we don’t complain about each of these things but more than likely there is something that we complain about with great regularity. Now, sometimes complaints are simply a way to vent some frustration at the moment but we don’t really want anything to change in this area. However, more …

5 Ways to Improve Your Parenting Skills (Psychology-Backed)

There is no such thing as a perfect parent. Parenting is hard. It takes a great deal of effort to be even a decent parent. My husband and I are raising our three children ages 6, 6, and 7. Yes, I have my hands full. Twin six-year-old boys and a seven-year-old girl keep me on my parenting toes, so to speak. It is not easy, but I do my best to be a good parent. Having a PhD in psychology is helpful, but I still devour plenty of parenting books and research articles to continually try to do better. I am still a work in progress just like all parents. It would be great if we knew exactly what to …

Messy Love: Doesn’t Mean It’s Not Perfect For YouPick the Brain

Just because you’re in messy love, or imperfect, that doesn’t make it any less valid or real. A messy love can be beautiful, and certainly, pull you outside your comfort zones. When opposites attract, they can bring on a whole host of things you never experienced before. Messy love life can be filled with drama and conflict. However, it shouldn’t be confused for a toxic relationship. It’s just a regular relationship that functions with drama. Remember people are different and what works for you, doesn’t work for me. Come enjoy a peaceful, low-key relationship, while others thrive on drama and high needs. Nothing is perfect, but that doesn’t stop people from trying to achieve it. And in the world of …