Do you think
a hike in your salary would make you happy? You believe so, don’t you? But hold
on to that thought. There is more to it than just the percentage increase.
For 2 years,
I observed a team of people. They exhibited a peculiar behavior after annual
hike announcements. During the first year, the market was not performing well.
As a result, the hike percentages were low for all the team members. People
were disappointed, no doubt, but no one complained as such.
The very next
year, the market had picked up. The whole team got a fantastic increase in
salary. Did the entire team enjoy and rejoice? You’d expect that, but what
happened was the opposite.
members had more concerns than the previous year. The worry wasn’t that the
numbers weren’t good enough. What bothered people was somebody else on the team
received a higher figure than they did.
wasn’t expressed only by a couple of people. A majority of people felt the
same. Some expressed it, and some didn’t.
That’s when I
realized, any performance measurement is always relative and based on the
I shook my
head in disbelief and told myself, “that’s absurd, I would never do the
same.” Or so I thought.
after starting my blog, I wanted to know where I stood. So I looked up how far
had the other bloggers reached by the 6-month mark. I was trying to evaluate my
blogging success by comparing it against other bloggers.
realized I was a culprit myself, a quote echoed in my ears.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.”
The problems of comparison
yourself with the right people and using that to improve is a fantastic
approach. Unfortunately, we fail to do that. Our comparisons stem from envy,
greed, and wishful thinking.
with measuring performance relative to others:
1. Comparing with the best
Walk into a
gym and look around. You’ll find a newcomer mentally comparing himself with the
most ripped person in the room.
are common. Soon after I started my blog, I started comparing the number of
readers I had against that of the best self-improvement blogs.
comparisons are unfair and silly because of the drastic difference in the
effort put in. Yet, your brain tickles
you to compare only against the best. When you do, you end up demotivated or
give up early.
2. Chasing meaningless goals
measure your success using comparison, you start chasing goals you do not care
coworker buys a fancy car, you find a better one. Even if he is a car
enthusiast and you’re not, you feel the urge to beat the price tag associated.
repeat this often, you end up pursuing goals just to beat other people. In the
process, you forget the goals that truly
resonate with your heart.
3. Comparison is never-ending
is like a treadmill running on infinite electricity. It goes on forever.
your happiness be defined by how well you’re doing compared to another person.
If you do, happiness will forever elude you. The reason is, once you beat one
opponent, you will find another with a higher benchmark.
comparing with the guy driving a Ford. Soon after, you find yourself jealous
about the person driving a Jaguar, followed by a Ferrari and so on.
It turns into
a vicious loop you can never break free out of.
The right approach to evaluate yourself
If you want
to improve and grow as a person, compare
yourself with the past version of you. Measure where you stand at regular
intervals and check if you’re improving from time to time.
If you see no
change in yourself, your growth will stagnate sooner or later. If your skills
have remained the same from the past few years, isn’t it unfair to expect the
organization to give you a hike every year?
months, you must find at least a wee bit of improvement in your core skill.
- If you’re a chef, your dishes must taste better
- If you’re into sales, your ability to close leads must scale-up
- If you’re a writer, the pace or quality of your content must
You do not
have to compare yourself against the best performer or knock your opponent out
cold. If you enter a race against yourself, you embark on an endless journey of
Do not try to
shatter records. Start with your average
and step it up a notch. Once you get there, aim higher. Slowly but
steadily, you will train a champion within yourself.
opponent is the person whose face you see in the mirror each morning. Go, beat
I am Maxim Dsouza. I turned down a corporate job in a quest to build something successful of my own. In this journey, I have been a part of multiple failed startups and few successful ones. I am yet to find what works, but my experience has taught me what doesn’t.
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